Hey, jerk. Yeah, you. Has anyone ever told you how sexy you look reading this magazine? Oh baby, the way you flip that page really does it for me. Whaddya say? You and me, let's go out sometime.
See? It’s that easy. Talking to someone you are interested in does not have to be as hard as we all make it out to be.
In the age of direct messaging and half-swiping, we are making finding a partner far more confusing than it has to be—if you are interested, let that be known. We understand, putting yourself out there may seem like the hardest thing to do at times. Everyone has been there, and that is really what should make this experience so much easier for all of us. The art of rizzing is a natural part of the human experience!
Jerk has compiled the best tips and tricks on how to attract someone. And no, it’s not just by getting their number by inviting them to play Game Pigeon with you. But hey —game is game. If repeatedly winning at Cup Pong exudes intrigue, by all means do what works for you.
Confidence is key.
When attracting or approaching a future mate, decorate your body like the colorful feathers of the exotic peacock you are. Wave them high and low! No bird wants to mate with a shy fledgling.
Write a love letter.
Travel back in time, grab your quill and ink and get to writing. The classic love letter tactic is for all my non-confrontational people out there. Writing something down is the best way for you to pour your emotions out without seeing their reaction unfold in front of you. Plus—either way they are leaving the scenario with a sweet little souvenir to remember you by. Make your mark!
Be forward and take the risk.
You don’t want to accidentally get stuck in a years-long friendship built on the foundation of an unspoken feeling. One day, you will find yourself walking down the aisle as the mate of honor instead of as the spouse-to-be. Yearning is not equivalent to earning, friends to lovers can become a very slippery slope.
There is no such thing as too much “glaze.”
When courting, you want to be clear that you are interested, not some nonchalant demon. A small compliment can go a long way. Pick out something you genuinely admire and praise them for it! Compliment a trait of theirs that you potentially have in common as a gateway into an in-depth conversation. But let’s remember that there is a line—don’t be too creepy and persistent. If you see something you admire, call it out! Don’t stare as you wait around for the “right approach.”
Most importantly—don't get embarrassed.
If they are not picking up on what you are putting down, keep your head up and move on. The best way to combat a fear of rejection is with continuous practice. So, stop waiting for a sign or for the stars to align and just go for it!