How to Tell You’re In the Friend Zone
By Julia Fuino
“But you say I’m just a friend…” We’ve all been there. Here are the not-so-subtle hints that girls in particular leave when they don’t want anything to do with a guy, or, would rather keep him as their bff. And for your enjoyment, I’ve also compiled a list of reasons why some guys just didn’t get the girl.
Guys, if a girl you’re interested in is pulling any of this shit, chances are, she’s not interested:
- If she hesitates to text you back, that’s a good thing; it means she’s into you. But, if the hesitation lasts more than a day, set your sights somewhere else. Also, if the conversation turns into one-word answers from her while you’re writing out your life story, it’s not going to work out.
- When she is vague about making plans and cancels them whenever possible, she doesn’t want to spend time with you. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done this. When a guy can’t seem to take no for an answer, I’ll let him make plans—but ultimately just for himself.
- If a girl says “love you” without actually being in a relationship with you, you’re in the friend zone.
- If you’re generally a nice guy who’s often placed in the friend zone and all you’re getting from her is a hug when you part.
- She talks about her exes and other guys she’s interested in.
- The only time she calls or texts you is when she’s having a “bad day” or when another guy gives her any sign that he’s not into her.
- If she doesn’t look her best whenever you see her, she isn’t trying to impress you.
- You find that “When Harry Met Sally” is not only the movie she makes you watch with her, but is also the story of your relationship.
- If she talks only about herself and never asks about you or your personal life.
- When you ask to see her, she suggests bringing her boyfriend along.
Why I Didn’t Call Him Back: “I didn’t call a guy back because when he took me up to his room, the first thing I noticed on the walls were Manga posters and anime paraphernalia,” Sophia, sophomore, said.
“I didn’t call a guy back because when he took me to Starbucks for our first date, he specifically requested a hot chocolate—with sprinkles,” Brooke, junior, said.
“I didn’t call a guy back because when we first started hooking up, he mentioned being interested in a threesome with my friend," Carly, sophomore, said.
“I didn’t call a guy back because upon first meeting me, he decided it was okay to tell me about his year spent living on a school bus," Anna, junior, said. “I think he got kicked out for dealing drugs.”