Why You So Obsessed With Me?
Graphic by Anika Dua
How many times have you heard the phrase “dude, she’s insane” come out of a guy’s mouth. No, Jared, she’s not insane. You probably did something really inconsiderate that warranted an adverse reaction.
We can blame misogynistic books, movies, and past societal standards for contributing to the “crazy and obsessive woman trope” that men love defaulting to any time a woman expresses emotion or articulates her feelings about a situation — but it’s time to let that narrative die.
Communicating needs and emotions when involved with another human physically, whether in a romantic context or a purely sexual one, is the mature way to go about it. Just because you’re not in love doesn’t mean mutual respect and understanding go out the window. Why would you want to be on different pages with the person you’re screwing after you get home from Lucy’s? We don’t get it.
Secondly, we like PLANS. Plans do not entail a contractual obligation to hang out, they’re just a nice way to know if your “wyd” is straight up bluff or if we’re getting laid tonight. Trust us — if a girl asks you for plans, she is not looking for a ring. She is simply trying to organize her busy life and make time for some ~recreational activity~.
Is that so wrong?
The whole 2 a.m.-booty-call thing is fine, but we probably aren’t free anymore, so that text will be left in the inbox. And your chill last-minute plan will remain a fantasy. (P.S. we all know that you’ve been planning on sending that “wyd” text since 8 p.m., so please wasting everyone’s precious time.)
Oh, and if we cancel plans or exit a situation because we’re not feeling it anymore, we are labeled as bitches. Let us know how that makes sense? Sorry, we did not know that being left on delivered for three days meant you cared. Nothing screams “I want to see you” more than being ghosted on and off in a time-consuming and draining mind game. Pick a vibe and maybe we wouldn’t lose interest. No one is going to think you’re a simp for responding.
We’ve seen an agonizing August, a sus September, and an obnoxious October — so turn it around or it’s about to be a no-nut November.