How to Get Through (and Over) a Dry Spell
How do you deal with this? How do you break this dreaded dry spell (and who knows, maybe a few hearts along the way)?
The Problem: You feel like a gollum.
You’re convinced the reason you’re not hooking up with anyone is because you’ve somehow transformed into a troll. You’re feeling gross and you're sad that you feel gross. Being gross feels gross.
The Solution: Check yourself.
Get your head out of your ass, you’re not gross. First of all, feeling like you don’t look great is all in your head. You probably look fine as hell—confidence is key. Second of all, even if you weren’t looking 100 percent, a boozy drunk boy will not care. You have a beating heart, so you're basically a catch.
The Problem: You’re getting over someone.
This is the hardest dry spell to go through. You’re getting over a recent heartbreak or something of the sort. You feel like hooking up with someone new would help you move on.
The Solution: Give yourself some time to think about what happened.
Heartbreak is completely subjective. For some, hooking up with someone new could really open your eyes up to what is out there. For others, it might bring back some not so happy times. Maybe hooking up right now isn’t the best idea. Take some time to reflect on why you’re awesome, not why someone else is.
The Problem: You have a case of the jitters.
You’re nervous about putting yourself out there, which is completely normal. We've all felt a little self conscious before deciding whether or not we want to hook up with someone after a long dry spell. You just need an extra push.
The Solution: A little liquid courage.
Hate to say it, but sometimes alcohol is the solution.
The Problem: You're over-thinking things.
You're second guessing whether or not you should approach a good-looking guy at the bar. A hundred thoughts are running through your mind (since you haven’t hooked up with someone in what feels like for forever). What if he takes one look at me and projectile vomits? What if he is a serial killer and the first person I hooked up with after this drought KILLS ME?
The Solution: Stop thinking like a psychopath.
Easier said than done, but stop over-thinking everything. It’s not like you’re asking this walking bro tank to give you a kidney—odds are, it's just a hook up. He will probably be thrilled considering you're actually approaching him. Go for it, the ball's in your court.
And remember, every dry spell has an expiration date. Even in the darkest of times, there is a light at the end of your (sexual) tunnel. So stay positive, good things are coming.