Male Vs. Female “Big O”
BY: Deanna Viel
The truth is, with different genitalia and stimulation requirements, the frequency between men and woman achieving orgasm are dissimilar as well. According to a study by the University of Chicago, men orgasm 75 percent of the time, which is more consistent than women who only achieve climax 50 percent of the time. Why the differences in “big moment” consistency between our different genders?
- Women Need More Time: “Most women need about 20 minutes of arousal time to reach the 'orgasmic platform,' when the clitoris is most sensitive and the body is primed for stimulation," said author of the Hot Guide to Safer Sex Yvonne K. Fulbright. So if a woman is dealing with a partner who wants to get right into it, chances are her sexual response cycle has not been fully completed, and it will be a LOT harder for her to get off.
- Men Don’t Need As Much Stimulation: Once a man’s penis is erect he can begin thrusting with it and producing the orgasm achieving sensations of inserting the penis into the vagina. For men, most orgasm achieving sex is thrust-based, moving the penis in and out of the vagina at a more rapid pace, the first thrust will feel just as good as the second, the last and so forth, meaning it doesn’t take different stimulation to orgasm. According to Urban Male Magazine, on average a man will make about 50 thrusts before he orgasms, which shows that the initial and solitary stimulation by thrust is enough to orgasm. Women however, often need vaginal and clitoris stimulation to orgasm and these “pleasure points”; “the key to satisfaction is steady stimulation in a position that hits your pleasure points” stated Sexologist Gloria Brame.
- Thought Engagement: A big part of reaching orgasm has to do with your thoughts, and sometimes lack thereof! Women are more likely to be thinking “mood killing” thoughts during sex such as, “are my thighs jiggling” or “wow he has really bizarre patterned chest hair” whereas when men engage in thoughts during sex they are more fantasizing oriented than actual cognitive associations about the act or the surroundings. Women can benefit from thinking sexual thoughts as well, as cognition is a big part of the sexual experience, but some thoughts, such as body conscious ones, are better left un-thought! Sexologist Gloria Brame says, “Your brain is a vital part of the sexual experience, registering sensations and releasing feel good chemicals to the body,” which proves that using thought to focus on a particular part of sex that feels good can also be a reason you either are or are not experiencing frequent orgasms.
So listen up ladies; because we cum apparently 25 percent less frequently, take your time with foreplay, don’t settle for any less pre-orgasm stimulation than you deserve and save your thoughts during sex for sexy and positive ones! Not all orgasms are created equal and we are working toward a time in the future with orgasm equality among men and women. For now, we will wear our ratio of 3 to 2 with pride, but we do hope for a more equal sexual experience.